Teen Rejected Idea of Family until She Got Connected

February 9, 2021
KENTUCKY/OHIO: Fifteen-year-old Starr* was pretty much done with family when Connect Our Kids came into her life.

Before entering foster care at age 12, Starr had lived with all her mother’s relatives and none of them turned out to give Starr the stability and consistency that children need in order to thrive. Starr couldn’t live with her dad and his side of the family because she didn’t know anything about them. With this personal history of disappointments and absences deeply embedded in her, Starr would go on to spend years in foster care bouncing around residential facilities.

It’s no wonder Starr rejected the idea of family.

Starr had been living with a great foster family for a month when her social worker used the Connect our Kids’ People Search Tool. It was there, she was able to find her paternal grandmother’s information and plug that into the Connect Our Kids Family Connections tool. From there, Starr’s social worker found Starr’s father’s side of the family.

While Starr cannot live with her father, Starr now has relatives who want to maintain connections. Starr also discovered she was named after her deceased grandmother who immigrated from England many years ago. Her foster family, whom she has been with for the past six months, joked that Starr should start speaking with a British accent.

Her foster parents are now planning a road trip to Ohio, where Starr will get the opportunity to learn more about her family history and meet family from her father’s side.

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*Name has been changed to protect privacy.


Written by Georgette, the Outreach Coordinator for Connect Our Kids. You can read about Georgette's experience in the foster care system.

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